Not What You Planned
Harm Reduction, Intimacy, and Learning in Kink
Sat, Mar 3 from 1pm - 3:30pm
Scenes are made and broken by how you adapt to the unexpected. Sometimes this means heading off or recovering from a major problem, but much more often it's small things. Do you notice that your bottom's having a hard time processing a toy they usually like? Why did the top feel angry when that one thing happened and what did they do about it? Remember the time you did an entirely different kind of scene than you'd planned and it was awesome? How do you respond to a broken whatever, and what do you do to keep it from happening again?
Nothing ever goes exactly the way you planned. Uncontrolled external events happen, gear fails, ramifications occur. We run with something that's working unexpectedly well. We try new things and do them imperfectly or discover the fantasy was hotter. People make mistakes and are complicated. Your decisions matter. You can pre-think safety, own what happens, make course corrections, communicate, and choose to learn. These are things you can do before, during, and after play to decrease the risks of harm, and increase the benefits of error.
This class will include presentation and discussion on skills, and talking through real-life incidents small and large. Many of those incidents will be accompanied by video. Some of Russell's more imperfect moments have been recorded by camera crews, which provide a unique opportunity to dissect exactly what happened, why, how our awareness developed, what we did about it, and how that worked out. Some of this material can be emotionally challenging, but you will come away from the class with tools for when you encounter the unexpected in your scenes.
All sexes, genders, ethnicities, sexual orientations, relationship orientations welcome and celebrated.
Cost at the door: $40.
No late entry will be allowed due to the nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
Attendance is limited to 40 people.
Questions may be directed to: firstname.lastname@example.org
About the Educator:
Russell Harmon has lots of practice learning from mistakes. He runs a BDSM porn site named Lovingly Handmade Pornography.
This event is presented by the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture. Please go to TheFSPC.org for more information.